Wedding and Baby Showers bring Anxiety for Hours
Wedding/baby showers bring anxiety for hours... or weeks if you’re me. And while everyone is excited and planning their outfits and poses for the photo booths and hashtags for the week or main event... I’m sitting around thinking “how much is too much champagne...?” Can anyone relate? And this is not because I don’t love my friends because trust me, I’d do anything for them... but showers are about as painful as it gets for me - and here is why.
Small talk. Need I say more? Suzie’s cousins best friend wants to tell you all about when she got married or when she had a baby and it’s so hard for me to act engaged. Mostly because I truly don’t care and it shows. Everyone that knows me knows I wear my thoughts and feelings on my sleeve, and if I don’t care I cannot try to pretend that I do. But here I am, doing it for my bestie or whatever, so it’s painful but no worries, I’ve got it covered (thank God it’s for two hours ish).
(Non) Expert advice. Like sorry, your experience was not my experience and probably won’t be my friend’s experience. But hey, we love to hear it and talk about it. I struggle the most with the “Oh well just wait until you’re married” line. Like okay Felicia, your marriage of one year is so advanced compared to their 5 year relationship and two years of engagement that there’s no way she can understand your one year of marriage. Cool yeah.
Watching my mouth. This is the hardest because I already coach kids AND manage like 35 people AND have a 10 year old. And I’m prone to foul mouth. So I am already highly monitoring myself 60 hours per week at least, and then you add a shower and I feel like a prisoner, or I feel trashy and judged by friends or family members far more classy than I. But hey, I read something once that people with foul mouths are more honest. So I have no apologies, just a bit of awkwardness...
Aside from all the things I don’t love about showers, I think we can all agree that it’s not about US and it is about whoever the shower is for. So while I or others may love or may dread them, we can mostly enjoy the fact that our friend/family member has invited us to celebrate a huge milestone in their life, and I know I will go through a thousand awkward moments if it means I can be there for them during this special time in their lives.
Thanks for letting me rant, and also understanding it’s from a place of love. :)